Just a 48-year-old mom of 2 in Northern California. My kids are Monkey Monkey(MM) and Drama Llama (DL). I am married to Monkey Hubby (MH). O.M.G.
Disaster company sale did not go through last Friday. 😭 I just couldn't even with that.
Of course the final chapter of disaster company was a total disaster.
The buyers planned to pay cash. But they don't understand how money works? I was fed juicy tidbits from multiple people along the way. The whole thing is just bonkers.
I was still optimistic we could make this work. I think in most cases this would be a major red flag or just wasn't going to happen. But I felt like it would work out, eventually. Given the details.
So last Friday they told us the wire had been sent, but it never came through. & then they kind of went radio silent as they scrambled to figure out their crap.
I guess they came up with an acceptable down payment on Thursday. So I get this call in the afternoon that they need the wire info because they are heading to the bank. What!? (This was after almost a week of crickets. My employer is just trying to leave us off the roller coaster, like that is really possible. & the buyers were also pretty quiet while they scrambled.) So that was very out of the blue. I got the wire paperwork and it all looked good. Surely the bank agrees the money is there, and they got all the account info correct. But it was after 2pm when they called me. So I knew this would be a Friday thing.
When the wire money wasn't there by noon Friday (they thought it was sent) I was really losing my mind. I. can't. even. with. this.
The wire did eventually came through. I later told my employer, "You know, you never told me the amount we are accepting." LOL. For all I know, he demanded $500K and they only sent $400K. (While he was trying to leave us off the roller coaster ride, he hadn't told me anything about the new agreement. I had just seen the paperwork at some point while they were negotiating.) They had sent the agreed amount.
I have so much work to do to wrap this up. The week delay and distracted week of limbo is not helping things. But I am so happy how ongoing operations, payroll, and employee issues are no longer my problem. Instead of doing 50 + 15 employee's payroll every week, I will just be doing our company (15 employees). & I think our payroll is a lot simpler (mostly salaried) and will be easier to get my assistant independent on.
I don't know why. everything. has. to. be. a. roller. coaster. 2026 definitely is starting off with the exact same vibe of 2025. (When I didn't even blog for 2 months, because everything was so crazy).
Current mood: Exhausted and numb. I think I am mostly in disbelief. & the reality quickly set in as we jumped directly from that roller coaster to all the nitty gritty of moving things over.
On the home front, there's also a lot of big things going on. The most dramatic is that DL(20)'s girlfriend will be moving here soon. She needs a place to land on her feet. I expect she will live here for a while and that I will have to cosign her lease. I am kind of, whatever. If just minding my own business creates this much drama, what if I actually did something wild and crazy? 🤷🏻♀️ What difference does it make at this point? I think cosigning a lease (so that she can get on her own two feet) is actually pretty boring and would have zero impact on our finances. The stakes seem pretty low re: dirt cheap housing in our lower cost region (compared to any frame of reference I have). & with two young 20-somethings that could use an apartment (if she abandons it). I will give it some thought and won't rush into anything. But it sounds pretty boring, in the grand scheme of things.
I am really proud of both DL and his girlfriend. They both have very good heads on their shoulders. I very much relate to her situation. She has no debt. When it came to my own lack of debt, this was always viewed through a middle class lense as a big accomplishment. No, you don't understand. I couldn't have afforded one penny of debt. The interest rates are usurious when you are 20 and on your own financially. Being in a mega high cost city, I couldn't have personally afforded $100/month for a car loan or a credit card payment. There was just no money to entertain debt. I personally view it as a good thing that the GF is not going to college. She felt like she didn't have a choice. But she easily could have made the choice to go deep into debt for a degree. Or she could have chosen the debt spiral (re: payday loans, car loans, credit cards, etc.) simply because she didn't know any better.
Her timeline is speeding up because wages are so much higher and labor laws are so much better in our state. I think she will be able to save money. & then she can go the free community college route, once she establishes her residency. The smallest kindness will change the course of her life significantly for the better.
I just remembered the other day that we were encouaraging my niece (who also graduates college this year) to move up here. It's going to be a year of flux, on the household front. Might have a household size of 3-6. I think 6 is unlikely, but the offer is out there. Both the niece and MM graduate this summer.
DL(20) did tell me that his plan is to live at home for 2.5 more (college) years. Piling up the money. He is such a mini-me of his father.
This reminds me... One of MM(22)'s roommates last year was *drama* and had a falling out with their parents before they signed the lease? Their GF's parents came through and agreed to pay their rent *and* co-sign a second $4K-$5K/month property. (You know, because they already had a college kid living in another house.) I remember at the time saying, "it must be nice!" So I feel like life has come full circle as I consider pretty much doing the same thing. Just 18 months later. Well, let's be clear. I did not offer to pay the rent. It's just a similar thing. For one $1,600/lease. This is more my pay grade.
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These are some adulting moments.