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Things Take a Turn

October 24th, 2021 at 04:13 pm

The peace was nice while it lasted.  Will take it whenever I can.  It was nice being able to post daily minutiae and not have any major drama in my life, for a few weeks.

That said, MH is out of town and I have a medical procedure next week.  The chaos is just increasing and I was feeling "meh" about getting through the rest of October with sharing daily expenses.  I guess also work has been pretty busy for MH and so we are no longer in "one income" mode.  

MH's Florida Grandfather ended up in the hospital last week.  Initially he seemed to be doing well and I wasn't overly concerned.  He turns 94 this next week, but we are used to the medical professionals under-estimating our 90-something Grandparents.  MH then talked to his parents Friday night and they said they were basically sending him home to die.  It doesn't sound like he is expected to even make it to his birthday.  But I don't know any details and presume we will get more.  They were trying to fly out yesterday (not sure if they made it with all these canceled flights).

I knew it was likely that this summer's Florida trip would be the last one, but I didn't think that MH was cutting it quite this close.

We are waiting to hear more from his parents before deciding how to proceed, but I am guessing MH is going to leave it that he will just be grateful to remember him the way he saw him (more healthy than this).  & I was wise and asked MH's family at some point about funeral expectations in his family and they were very much, "Funerals are for the living" and, "We'd rather you spend your time/money enjoying relatives while they are alive."  Today I am grateful that we already had those conversations and I am not left wondering if we will all be obligated to attend some funeral.  (Meaning, having to drag my kids and everything).   That's how my family is (not much for funerals, and never expected to attend the ones that were had thousands of miles away), but this is the only one of MH's elderly relatives who doesn't live close.  Heck, there hasn't been a death in his family the 26 years we have been together.  This is probably why I asked.

5 Responses to “Things Take a Turn”

  1. LivingAlmostLarge Says:

    I am so sorry to hear that about MH grandfather. It's very hard when people live so long in families to figure out how to feel.

  2. rob62521 Says:

    Hope your procedure goes well.

    Sorry about DH's grandparent not doing well.

  3. terri77 Says:

    94 years is a blessing. I’m sorry for your family’s loss.

  4. VS_ozgirl Says:

    Sorry to hear DH’s grandfather is likely nearing his end.. years ago when my grandmother overseas suddenly took a sharp turn for the worst and went into renal failure I was originally not going to say goodbye but I realised I needed to do it.. it was very expensive but I am so glad I got that one last hug while she was conscious.. I guess just be open to him going to say goodbye one last time, it is worth it.. good luck with your procedure too

  5. MonkeyMama Says:

    Thanks everyone. We got confirmation today (from MH's parents) that it is as bad as it sounds.

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