No idea where to begin...
I don't care much for these "3" years. 2013 was a completely absurd year. 2023 isn't *that* crazy yet. But it's going to be an expensive year, that is for sure.
I noticed that MH only drove 500 miles in May. It was a quiet "not much planned" month, but we were fixing a lot of things on the home front. I had a very flat tire and DL's car wouldn't start. (Lucky that we didn't have to call AAA twice last month).
I expected June to be busy, but the *busy* started end of May. Two weeks ago? MH got (free) tickets for a documentary and concert. That was great and I'd tell you more about it if I had time. That same week was DL(17)'s last high school concert. That was the week that we had to deal with the kids' car not starting.
In June, MH has a big movie night (it's been postponed a few times but I think the date is set now). Had a big work event Friday. DL(17) just wrapped up high school Friday. Woohoo! Picking up MM(19) from college in another week (finals next week) and then our annual camping trip. Most of that is compacted into this week. Will have 'an empty' nest for 4.5 days. But then will spend 1.5 days picking up MM(19) from the college. We don't have time to make a more leisurely trip of it.
Having 3 cars is exhausting. Was just going through a pile of paperwork. It was all car insurance and car repair bills, etc. DMV renewals. The kids' car just needed a new starter. But our mechanic was booked up and referred us to a much more expensive shop.
That reminds me. DL(17) had literally just paid the (new driver $$$$$$) auto insurance and DMV renewal. This left him with about $1,100 cash. I was telling him, "Cars are expensive." Then the car repair came in at $1,000. Closer to $1,100 because we just had them do the oil change while they had the car. Because he's not 18 and he doesn't have much a job at this point, we will just pay for this car repair. & of course, it's more complicated than that. MM(19) is still using the car, etc.
My first instinct was to give DL(17) our grocery savings this summer, while he is being paid in room and board. But I mentioned this to MH (after the big car repair) and he wants DL to work off the car repair with the free meals. Fair enough. & we decided to bill MM(19) for the expensive oil change. He has a free car to use otherwise. Gives him a way to contribute towards use of the car, while giving DL(17) a small break on car expenses.
We haven't spent much on graduation. DL is mostly *over it* and didn't go to too many events. He only had 100 kids in his high school class, which is a lot of it. I didn't anticipate how miserable that would make him. (My own high school experience was the polar opposite. More of a college experience, with 1,000 kids in my class).
The one thing I am very happy with is that I got some great "Grad" photos from my Dad. Like everything else, had to postpone a few times but finally got that settled. The pictures came out great.
I did order some graduation announcements with the new pictures. I just bought a handful, mostly for grandparents.
DL(17) did request a big dinner out on his graduation night. We were off the hook because grandparents paid for that. I think they chose to spend more on that but had given MM(19) a big pile of cash instead, for his pandemic graduation. At the end of the day, I can tell you the dinner (and time with grandparents) meant more to DL than the pile of cash. Even though I was expecting he might get more of a cash boost (and could have used it). (Presuming he got graduation gifts that were comparable to MM's, which he did not).
Our garage door opener still is not working in the direct sunlight. We thought we had fixed it (per advice of a repairman) but we didn't get around to it until end of summer last year. It worked fine for many months and now it is being finicky again. Now that we are back to more sunlight. Our only other option is to replace it. So that is a bummer. I was relieved it actually worked for me yesterday. I was running a little late (for an event) and I was sure that was going to slow me down. But I ended up with luck on my side. Most of the time I never notice it (because I generally leave earlier and come back later). But I noticed it twice last week and told MH that I was already over it. He seems to be a lot more patient about it. We obviously aren't going to get around to this in the next few weeks, but might revisit in July.
I'm expecting a lot of other big expenses this year, still. Off the top of my head... Still need to replace the tires on my car. (I don't think this is related to my flat tire. My tire hit something on the road. I was already being on the more cautious side, planning to change out my tires this year.) Expecting medical expenses. The garage door opener. I don't remember what else but I am sure there is more. Will have to cash flow MM's first month of rent, but I have the rest of the year saved for.
DL(17) had a last minute training thrown at him Saturday, so the poor kid had no time off between school and his summer job. But thankfully they gave him most of Sunday off. That gave him a little more time. Saturday he worked all day and spent the evening packing. MH and I ran to the store on Sunday. If nothing else, he needed sunblock and bug spray. & we got him a flashlight.
I might work on a round of decluttering. I was looking for a rain jacket for DL(17) because the weather is so weird in general this year, and will be stormy in the mountains all week. I did find one. It was the rain jacket that MM(19) bought for his big river rafting trip some years ago. I also found a few outgrown jackets on the coat rack. Forgotten, because the kids mostly refused to wear them ever. I also lucked out and found a pair of sheets in a closet, that DL can use at camp. But there's some kids' sheets in there. Will wash those and throw in the donate pile. & lord knows I need to purge some clothes.
For whatever reason, MM still had his shower shoes with him at college. (He's just sharing a bathroom with one person this year.) I was hoping I could dig those out of his room. But I can bring those up to DL(17) in a week. & I ordered him a laundry bag that probably won't be here in time. MH just thought of it Saturday. (I hadn't given it any thought before Saturday, this packing and prepping. But the stakes are pretty low because we will be back there again, soon.) I told DL(17) to just use a trash bag for his bedding. Will switch it out when we get the laundry bag.
Edited to add: We dropped off DL(17) at his summer job. With all the extra rain and snow this year, the view was breathtaking. But the mud was pretty bad. I hosed off the car the second we got home. Will probably be going through this again a few times (lots of mud), before it warms up and things dry up. For reference, it was 30 degrees cooler at camp (in the mountains). DL(17) is spending the summer near Tahoe. He gets the better paradise but also is significantly more roughing it, than his brother is in his So Cal paradise. First impressions were good (for DL). Will see how he feels after a few nights sharing a small dorm/cabin with 11 people. 🤞🏼
I'd say that's a small glimpse of my life lately.