I transferred over a whole whopping $136 to MM(19). $78 for 30 days of groceries (???) and $58 for his one way train ticket home. His girlfriend gave him a ride back to school after Thanksgiving break.
To be fair, he charged up ~$25 on my Target card that I just paid for. (Might have included non-grocery expenses that I'd expect him to pay for.) & he told me MIL bought him some groceries but he made it sound like it was only $10 or $20. (That he didn't really need anything, the weekend she visited.)
The girlfriend is feeding him a lot. I was planning to get her a grocery gift card for Christmas. Because she never accepts money (for gas or anything.) I asked MM if her parents were paying for her groceries, wondering if that wasn't very exciting gift for her. (Though maybe I owe her parents, in that case.) But MM(19) told me that she was getting financial aid for her groceries. I share because I think MM(19) is greatly benefitting from her free food.
MM(19) is applying for a RA position. Fingers crossed! I never in a million years would have guessed one of my kids would want to be a RA. & honestly, not even really sure what his motivation is. He gets "free" room and board regardless (we are paying). His ultra frugal genes are his motivation, I guess. & I think he just wants to be more independent. Unfortunately, is going to make housing really difficult (scrambling last minute re: very impacted housing) if he doesn't get the position. But I am feeling pretty zen about it. I can be zen for the chance to save a bajillion dollars. Will see...
We did just get DL(17)'s State college application submitted. We had the nice surprise that his high school will pay for one CSU application. (They are trying to figure out what to do with extra pandemic funds.) I put $70 on the credit card but should eventually get a reimbursement for that. He is just applying to the local State college. It would have just been a check box to apply to our alma mater too (another State college) but we missed the deadline and that ship had sailed. I didn't realize that A - the local state college extended the deadline & B - few other CSUs seemed to do the same extension. DL(17) has been resisting (even visiting the college), so it's not a big loss.
Edited to add: Already received $70 reimbursement. That was fast.
Financial aid is sorted for MM(19). Phew!
I am ready to sit down and sort all things college finances for MM(19). It's plausible he could get more scholarships this year, but if he does I'd probably just give the money back to him. I am preceding with the info that I have to-date, which is probably accurate.
Net tuition for the year is $4,100. I will pull that money out of MM's gifted college funds when I pay spring quarter fees. That is about a wash with the rent that will be due.
We hadn't touched MM's money yet. But he had free tuition last year. I just hadn't touched it this year yet because financial aid was so up in the air. Now that it's sorted, I like how this year is pretty much done and paid for already. But I expect in the future I will just reimburse ourselves as we go.
I started this post a bajillion years ago but just have been slammed with work. I figured I'd circle back and at least get this posted.
MM(19) did make it home last night. Phew! He had a blast, working on the parade float. I don't know when, but when we can all sit down and look at some of his pictures... I will share a behind the scenes photo.