Just a 47-year-old mom of 2 in Northern California. My kids are Monkey Monkey(MM) and Drama Llama (DL). I am married to Monkey Hubby (MH). Dh got his surgery date - it's in about 3 weeks.
O.M.G.
Yesterday we freaked out a bit. I don't know if it is more real, or if we are just so panicked because it ended up much sooner than expected. We were expecting a February date.
I am relieved we haven't had to get our affairs in order. Long said and done. It's not like he was in an accident and we have minutes to decide. We have had weeks. But it's nice to know that our life insurance and wills and all that are well squared away. I don't know if dh is as insurable any more, so another sigh of relief there. He's well covered for the rest of his life - with the extremely low cost life insurance we bought in our 20s.
Lots of daycare arrangements are to be made in the next 2 weeks!!!
Anyway, to the doctors, this is no big deal. It would be like a 1-night hospital stay if he could get up and walk out. Since they are severing his balance nerve on one side, they want him to regain some balance before he leaves. 3 days in the hospital if all goes well. There has been no talk of risk of death or brain damage, because the odds of anything like that are SO slim.
& yet, they are operating on his BRAIN. It's just hard to accept that it will be so easy peasy.
I assume we will be a bit of a wreck the next few weeks. I will feel so relieved once this surgery is over with.
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His pre-op appointment is early, the day after his birthday. So we will go to San Jose the night before and have a BIG birthday celebration, I am sure.
He assumed I would work hard to catch up at work the next few weekends. I asked him if he was crazy - I am spending some good quality time with him while he is well! Though he may make some plans to get together with friends.
So yeah, we decided to take the kids down with us and we will have a leisurely day before his surgery. Will get a hotel a couple of nights, since we have to be at the hospital at dawn, for surgery. I figure I wanted to be close to the hospital the first night - and it will be nice to have a place to rest if the surgery runs super long.
If all goes well he will have surgery Thursday, and be home by Sunday.
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We decided to get a nice family portrait before his surgery. Compliments of my dad. Something I'd be willing to pay for, but I know we can get something real nice, for free. 
There is a possibility his face will be paralyzed, so he wants to get some pictures of his "perfect face" before surgery.
It's Official
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((hugs))
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I will keep your family in my prayers, too!
December 30th, 2009 at 01:15 am 1262135732
Yes - the kids know everything. As much as they can understand, anyway. They certainly need to be prepared - their main caregiver will be gone in the hospital and then off his feet, for a long while!
January 2nd, 2010 at 07:36 am 1262417768
it sounds like you have a good plan - quality family time and the family picture
hope everything goes well!
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