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It's Official

December 29th, 2009 at 03:42 pm

Dh got his surgery date - it's in about 3 weeks.


Yesterday we freaked out a bit. I don't know if it is more real, or if we are just so panicked because it ended up much sooner than expected. We were expecting a February date.

I am relieved we haven't had to get our affairs in order. Long said and done. It's not like he was in an accident and we have minutes to decide. We have had weeks. But it's nice to know that our life insurance and wills and all that are well squared away. I don't know if dh is as insurable any more, so another sigh of relief there. He's well covered for the rest of his life - with the extremely low cost life insurance we bought in our 20s.

Lots of daycare arrangements are to be made in the next 2 weeks!!!

Anyway, to the doctors, this is no big deal. It would be like a 1-night hospital stay if he could get up and walk out. Since they are severing his balance nerve on one side, they want him to regain some balance before he leaves. 3 days in the hospital if all goes well. There has been no talk of risk of death or brain damage, because the odds of anything like that are SO slim.

& yet, they are operating on his BRAIN. It's just hard to accept that it will be so easy peasy.

I assume we will be a bit of a wreck the next few weeks. I will feel so relieved once this surgery is over with.


His pre-op appointment is early, the day after his birthday. So we will go to San Jose the night before and have a BIG birthday celebration, I am sure.

He assumed I would work hard to catch up at work the next few weekends. I asked him if he was crazy - I am spending some good quality time with him while he is well! Though he may make some plans to get together with friends.

So yeah, we decided to take the kids down with us and we will have a leisurely day before his surgery. Will get a hotel a couple of nights, since we have to be at the hospital at dawn, for surgery. I figure I wanted to be close to the hospital the first night - and it will be nice to have a place to rest if the surgery runs super long.

If all goes well he will have surgery Thursday, and be home by Sunday.


We decided to get a nice family portrait before his surgery. Compliments of my dad. Something I'd be willing to pay for, but I know we can get something real nice, for free. Big Grin There is a possibility his face will be paralyzed, so he wants to get some pictures of his "perfect face" before surgery.

17 Responses to “It's Official”

  1. NJDebbie Says:

    Please know you are in my thoughts. I know things we'll be fine. So have a great time before the surgery and wishes for a speedy recuperation for your hubby!

  2. creditcardfree Says:

    It can be a little scary once you have a definite date. Take care of yourselves, enjoy your time together, and expect everything to turn out well! It will.

  3. momcents Says:


  4. Maismom Says:

    I'm sure everything will be fine. I'll be praying for you and your husband.

  5. sweetmama Says:

    My heart goes out to you! Sounds like you have a positive attitude - keep it up!

  6. baselle Says:

    Well, 3 weeks is mid-January, so not that much closer than February. It pays to have all those fiscal preparations in place, so you can concentrate on the emotional and medical ones. I've kept you and will keep on keeping you in my thoughts. (what an odd sentence)

  7. dmontngrey Says:

    Oh boy... but this does mean it will come and go very soon. We all are thinking of you guys and you have things put together as best you can. Sounds like good plans are in place all around! Smile

  8. aevans1206 Says:

    I will be praying for you and your family. Enjoy your time together!

  9. Ima saver Says:

    I know you will both come thru this in flying colors! I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers also. Be strong!

  10. Apprentice Bliss Hunter Says:

    My best wishes to you and your family ! I hope everything works out well and goes to plan - I'm sure it will.

  11. Lisa Says:

    Thinking of all of you and again, sending good wishes! You are so "pulled together." You may have a few rough patches, but you can totally get through this! Hugs.

  12. whitestripe Says:

    DF and I will be thinking of you guys over the next three weeks. Do your children know what is happening? Try to relax and not stress too much. Much love xx

  13. gamecock43 Says:

    oh your update is making me teary! that is such a hard situation I dont know how I would handle it.

  14. miclason Says:

    ((hugs)) setting a date definetely makes it "more real". Now you know when it is going to happen and it{s not just "sometime in the future", so, yes, no wonder you freaked a bit about it!
    I will keep your family in my prayers, too!

  15. monkeymama Says:

    3 weeks seems EONS closer than 6 weeks, to me! Big Grin PArticularly when you consider the worst. If something happens, all I Can think is, only 3 weeks!!!

    Yes - the kids know everything. As much as they can understand, anyway. They certainly need to be prepared - their main caregiver will be gone in the hospital and then off his feet, for a long while!

  16. frugaltexan Says:

    it sounds like you have a good plan - quality family time and the family picture

    hope everything goes well!

  17. ambitioussaver Says:

    I just wanted to let you know you are in my thoughts and I'll be praying that everything goes well.

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