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May 20th, 2009 at 12:39 am

I need some positive thoughts for my family.

Last week was a little dramatic as my dad thought of quitting his job. They had decided, prior, to stay in the pricey Bay Area and to retire there they will have to work longer. Well, my dad will. He will be working until the bitter end regardless. He LIKES working. Probably where I get it from. Wink

Anyway drama at work, and unsure if the place will survive anyway, thinking of quitting for sanity and maybe a little pre-emptive too. Of course, this means a large possibility that they may just retire and move (like, anywhere - because anywhere would be cheaper). Though they aren't sold on Sacramento (summer heat & lack of engineering jobs) I guess I can work on them. At least housing prices are rock bottom.

So I Was both a little bummed and worried about all this. My dad had a 2-week vacation coming up and was basically going to "sleep on it." I know they will be fine. But you know how it goes.

Fast forward to Monday. I am home sick and feel like hell. I am trying to REST but dh wakes me up to tell me my dad is in the emergency room.

Details are vague, but in the end it seems he suffered a "mini-stroke."

That was the original diagnosis. They sent him home and he has a slew of tests and doctor appointments. They sent him home after CAT Scan showed no signs of stroke.

I started out panicked because my mom hands the phone to him and I realize talking to him how dire the situation is.

Things calmed down when they sent him home.

This morning he had an appointment and no one called me. I started calling around noon but phone is busy all afternoon. I finally talk to my dad around 3pm, who sounds horrible and I can barely understand what he is saying. I talked to my mom who tells me he sounds worse. Yeah, no kidding.

So of course this got me MORE worried.

I guess the unofficial diagnosis is TIA (mini-stroke - which means 30% more likely to suffer a stroke). However, dh told me from his internet reading that a TIA is when the symptoms last less than 24 hours. So it worries me it's been longer and he sounds worse.

He has some appointment to ultrasound some artery tomorrow (to check for blockage) and a MRI later in the week.

I guess once we got more info yesterday we thought, this sucks but we will get through it. Today I guess it is sinking in how serious this all may be. He can not speak very well and can not write either. No one has assured us the damage is not permanent.

His mother had PArkinson's so they are evaluating him for that. He also has an appointment with a neurologist.

I watch that show Medical Diagnosis way too much. Where it sometimes takes YEARS to diagnose these things. I only hope we can have more answers sooner.

My dad is only 57...

He's one of those who has 9 lives. If anyone can beat this thing, whatever it is, he can do it. I think it's the only reason I am not falling apart right now. We weren't going to go see them until Thursday, since I wasn't feeling well enough to travel yesterday, and things had settled down. Now I am not so sure.

Anyway, my family has had a rough few days. Some positive thoughts would be appreciated.

17 Responses to “*sigh*”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    You will all be in my thoughts. ((hugs))

  2. dmontngrey Says:

    I am very sorry to hear what you are going through. Scary to not know right now.

    My dad is 62 now, but when he was around your dad's age, he had a heart attack and quadruple bypass. Holy cow! Up until that point I just figured he'd live forever. Don't forget to take care of YOU too. That was a really tough time for me emotionally.

  3. L Saver Says:

    I'm thinking of you.

  4. Analise Says:

    So sorry to hear about your dad. I am sending you my best wishes that your family can get through this rough patch quickly and that your dad will regain his health. You are a wonderful daughter... your love, support, and concern just shines through your words.

  5. frugaltexan75 Says:

    I'm so sorry to hear about your dad's health. Please know that my heart goes out to you and your family.

  6. Broken Arrow Says:

    Here's to the both of you getting well soon.

  7. cassandra Says:

    I'm so sorry. I hope your dad gets better soon. *hugs*

  8. gamecock43 Says:

    That's tough. Good luck.

  9. baselle Says:

    Sending out some positive thoughts. {{{hugs}}}.

  10. lizajane Says:

    I hope things get better and it won't be permanent damage. He's so young. ((hugs))

  11. debtfreeme Says:

    I am sorry to hear of your fathers illness. Please know all of you are in my thoughts.

    If you need anything, I am in the area, just drop me a line and i'll do anything to help.

  12. merch Says:

    Sorry to hear that. Wishing the best.

  13. north georgia gal Says:

    You are in my thoughts.

  14. momcents Says:

    So sorry to hear of your family's difficulties. Hope things get improve with your dad's health. Wishing you the best.

  15. MICLASON Says:

    Sorry to hear that. I hope your family will recover soon. Not having a diagnostic is very exhausting, emotionally.
    I'll be sending healing/relaxing vibes your way!

  16. monkeymama Says:

    Thanks everyone.

  17. SicilyYoder Says:

    My mom has had several TIAs over the years. She worries about everything, which doesn't help at all. I will be thinking of you.

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