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Some Finances, Some Ranting, Some Updates

January 27th, 2010 at 06:39 pm

You may think I disappeared because life is crazy, but really I am just sicker than a dog. The "life is crazy" part is not helping though. I went into work this morning because I had pressing deadlines. I'm not good at asking for help, generally, but have been good these last weeks. Still, some of it needed to be directed by me. I delegated the rest. In the end, it felt good to be up and about. I may go to work tomorrow for 4 hours, even if I feel like hell still. Was good medicine.

I walked BM home from school yesterday thinking the exercise would help. Instead, I think the unusual cold made me worse. Was freezing... (I had noticed, fresh air walks to/fro the car helped my sinuses while at the hospital. I guess not so much with longer walks to school in cooler weather...)

Today I did see some sun, and not so much rain. Was nice!!


How is this for money karma? Received $2k for medical bills. Mostly from MIL who thinks we are "hard up" on some insane level. BUT, the fam did pool their resources for a nice gift. It is what I suggested since a couple of other relatives did want to spend $400-ish on a gift that wouldn't have been used. I did tell her we need cash more than anything. (If they refused to buy the more modest gifts I suggested, anyway). Though entertainment for the hospital was a nice gesture, he wouldn't have been up to it - he was mostly a lifeless lump.

So - came home - and found a $2k charge on my card, from the hospital. Money karma in action! I deposited the check today and will send it to the card when it clears. (It was the first time they put a hold on a deposit - was kind of odd - but whatever).

The truth is I expect to pay our $6k out-of-pocket this year. It just may take some years to bill. If the past is any indication...

Ironically, I swear the hospital told us the deposit would be $300, and they asked us if we would need help paying for it, etc. To be fair, dh heard, "$300 per day." Regardless, neither of those figures added up to anywhere near $2k. I love how they just charged the card without telling us what it was going to be. I suppose I should have asked upon release. But why do you ask someone if they can afford $300? & then charge them $2k? !!

Since we already have the medical cash, will probably put $1k to open a regular IRA (need one to roll my profit sharing into) and will probably invest in a bed for LM. Dh wants the TV, of course, but I think that may be on hold due to his medical status.


As somewhat expected, it also hasn't been very spendy here. My parents and in-laws fed me most the time dh was in the hospital. I did spend a LOT on gas and all. But, food has been well taken care of here. I will offer MIL cash for the next grocery run (she shopped today) but not sure she will take it. I'd give her a check if I thought she would cash it...


Yesterday, I had some time to look up some of dh's issues, and was disappointed to see some of it could be permanent. The double vision is common, but could be an issue forever. I am fretting a bit if he will be able to drive again, for a long time. The nurses/docs, just said it would get better. Though that will most likely improve, a lot of people say they have double vision YEARS later, with fatigue, too much computer time, lots of reading, etc. Will have to discuss his options with the doctor. He is wearing an eye patch for now, but don't think that is a safe way to drive. Anyway, overall, maybe months to a couple of years. Yikes!

Also, was disappointed to see that his mouth/jaw numbness may also last months/years, and will very likely be permanent. !!! Being a bit of a foodie, I can hardly imagine anything worse. Though I am sure he will adjust.

For now, he doesn't know any better, and tells me both are improving a little each day. I will cross my fingers for that. In the interim, he escaped from so many other bad outcomes, but it's still hard to accept that this may be what he is left with. *sigh*


The MIL situation is okay. She drove me a little nuts, and is the reason I am sick again (unnecessary stress). But, overall, since she has been home with us, she has chilled out a bit. So, all I can say is, Phew! Until the next drama, anyway.

7 Responses to “Some Finances, Some Ranting, Some Updates”

  1. boomeyers Says:

    Hang in there! I hope you feel better soon!!

  2. Tabs Says:

    Larry: I couldn't make it to my aunt's funeral so I sent her a card instead.
    Bill: Wait, what? You sent your dead aunt a card? Oh no. I'm afraid to even ask, but what did the card say?
    Larry: Get well soon.


    Sorry, bad joke. Hope you get well soon, MM! Big Grin

  3. Caoineag Says:

    Can't say I am surprised to hear you are sick, all that stress tends to take its toll. Glad to hear that your DH is getting a little bit better each day. Hope you feel better soon!

  4. JanH Says:

    My SIL had a numb nerve to her leg that her back surgery didn't help. (It definitely helped the pain in the rest.) I think she is still in therapy, the docs hoping that the nerve will regenerate some feeling. Maybe, over time that will be a possibility for your DH's face since he'll be using it often. We'll keep our prayers going that will be the case. And, that the double vision will resolve. Take care of yourself, too!

  5. monkeymama Says:

    I am noticing a pattern - spend time in a germy hospital, have MIL drive me insane with her pushing something or the other, and then end up sicker than a dog. Ugh. This time I had plenty more stress in between though. It's not all her - but I do think she sent me over the edge. (Dh has a doctor appointment today and best I am not going, I suppose).

    Anyway, I feel much better today. MUCH better! Fever was gone last night. Phew! Taking the weekend off to refresh and then throwing myself into work after that. Easier to do since dh is doing so well. Not so worried about him.

  6. dmontngrey Says:

    Mother or MIL - either one of them would easily do me in. It's rare when I get sick!! Under that kind of stress, I'd be a goner. You're doing great! Glad to hear you're feeling better. Smile

  7. baselle Says:

    I'm glad to hear that your DH is doing a little bit better each day. You might as well latch on that. As for the deafness, jaw numbness, etc, remember he just had surgery a week ago. Its just too soon to worry about permanent damage.

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