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I'll Second That - Sick and TIRED

January 3rd, 2010 at 04:51 pm

O.M.G.

I wouldn't even know where to begin, but dh's family is insane. INSANE.

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In the end, dh wants to go down next weekend to visit his family. His sister wants to give him a mohawk, in honor of surgery. HE figured we better get used to the shaved head - make it an easier adjustment for the kids and such. HE also knew the mohawk would be a good lead-in to acquaintances about how he is going in for surgery. Kind of ingenious.

Anyway, so then we talked of going to a museum we have long wanted to visit in San Francisco. Kind of a what the heck because who knows when we will feel up to it again.

I suppose this will be a good opportunity to test out the family and see it they can truly support dh. I just don't know if I am emotionally up for more *battle.*

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So, yeah. I am just not dealing well with all the emotions. I was mostly over my virus, but awoke today with a scratchy throat. No surprise since the night before, I spent all night talking this through with dh. Who needs rest, right???

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Well, switching gears to the financial.

I was productive and put away a lot of paperwork FRiday.

I was kind of surprised to note that we drove 25k miles in 2009. You know - since my commute is very small and dh does not work and all. Though overall, it's pretty consistent where we have been. About 10k miles on the van, and 15k on the gas sipper.

Overall, the number surprises me though. Most of our driving is that I have tended to come at lunch far more often with lower gas prices (lower than insane) AND we tend to travel so much around the state.

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My dad took some nice photos of us yesterday. We can check that one off the list. Dh wanted some pictures, in case he ends up with facial weakness or paralysis. No doubt, in the back of the mind, we should get a nice family picture in case something happens - now matter how remote the possibility.

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My parents came over yesterday and we did Christmas dinner. (Postponed due to illness). It was nothing fancy - just the crockpot meal we had planned. Though the bread had gone bad and we didn't get to try our bread appetizer recipe thing. We may just try it today.

I also finally got around to making fudge. I usually make it for *me.* IT was funny - no idea dh loved it so much. He really asked a lot about it the last few days - otherwise I may have forgotten!

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I ended up returning my gift (before all the drama). I made out well. I exchanged the towel warmer for some glass cannisters (to replace some cheap ones I never liked - for sugar/flour and such), a microwave plate cover (been meaning to get for ages - still usually use paper towels to prevent splatters), AND a nice cake/cupcake storage/carrying case. Dang thing was $30. Which seems crazy to me. BUT, will be nice. We usually just cover with foil. I suppose these purchases were in an effort to reduce waste - but will also be a little more convenient.

Those were all a pretty even exchange. All things I had been wanting for a LONG while. So that was nice.

While at the store, I saw the nicest cutting board for about $15. So I got that for dh, for his birthday. I am still not sure if we will spend $100 on a food processor or not. I just gave it to him so he can enjoy the next few weeks. It had a bit of a curved handle so it is easy to pick up and scoop into a cooking pan, etc.

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Though MIL tried her best to ruin these plans, I think it was still a success. Dh finally got around to taking BM rock climbing (indoors). Thing is his friend works at the place, and so invited them after hours.

As expected, BM The monkey, ran to the top in mere seconds. Since the wall is made for adults, they were super impressed. I am not surprised, since he climbs to the top of everything he comes across. With ease!

So, he was in his element.

That was like the only think on dh's bucket list. He felt bad he had put off taking BM rock climbing. What a way to make it up to him though. I suppose they will probably get a membership to the local place, after dh recovers from surgery. BM was in his element. Though they also can visit the Bay Area one, any time, for free. Which may be good enough for us. Will see!

When we lived in the Bay Area we knew so many people who worked for places like TIVO, Adobe, 3M? (palm pilots) - we always got free or extremely cheap gadgets. These days - it's free rock climbing. It's always nice to have friends in high places. Big Grin

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For today, not much in the plans. The house is pretty picked up. The financial chores are done. I believe I will scrub showers and do some deep cleaning since I expect a lot of guests during dh's recovery. Just kind of get that stuff out of the way for now. I want to enjoy and relax our next couple of weeks - not spend the weekends doing chores!!!

It was funny though. I filed papers and cleaned up my desk last night. Since my move to laptop, I rarely use my desk. It looked ugly, but once I cleared all the trash and junk, there really wasn't much to it. (The filing was lightning fast since I barely get any statements by mail any more). That was kind of how the whole house was. I wouldn't say I have spent more time than usual being organized or clean. But I suppose we seem to be keeping up a little better with the kids being a little more older and independent. All I can say is - Phew!!! What I thought would be endless chores, went lightning fast. Yay!

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Anyway, I no longer feel like I need good thoughts for dh's surgery. I know TONS of people for praying for him.

I need good thoughts and prayers that his family gets a CLUE!!! I just DREAD how these next few weeks will play out... For dh's sake, his family needs to get a freaking clue. It's hard enough making such a hard decision without your loved ones second-guessing you, every step of the way.

The fact of the matter that the outcomes are expected to mostly be the same, whether we go with our choice or MIL's choice for treatment/surgeon. We have no idea where all the craziness is coming from. *sigh* As my mom says, "MIL just isn't used to not getting *her* way." I just have no idea why her way is so devoid of logic!

8 Responses to “I'll Second That - Sick and TIRED”

  1. DeniseNTexas Says:
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    Bless your heart. You're just going through the wringer in all this, aren't you? I feel for you and for whatever it might be worth, I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

  2. veronak Says:
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    I'm sorry to hear about your hubby's situation and I too will be praying for you and your family

  3. aevans1206 Says:
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    Monkey Mama, I have always loved your blog and I will keep your family in my prayers. Sometimes it is the people we CHOOSE to have in our lives who end up meaning the most to us. Your DH is so blessed to have you.

  4. zetta Says:
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    One way to bypass the MIL gatekeeper would be to set up a blog at www.caringbridge.org and send the link out to all the relatives. Then you can post updates with the info YOU want everyone to have...

  5. creditcardfree Says:
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    Great idea, zetta! My neighbors have used caringbridge when their daughter went through surgery this summer and I highly recommend it as well. You write the updates and those who might be interested hear the information directly from you.

    Just to play devil's advocate: your MIL is stressed out that this is all happening to her son. She is on her own emotional roller coaster and does not have skills to be there for the two of you. Just another way to look at it. First and foremost, take care of DH and yourself!!

  6. monkeymama Says:
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    Thanks for the link, zetta!!!

    If nothing else, made me realize we do need to take the reigns a bit. No more "everyone else will spread the word." Screw that.

  7. boomeyers Says:
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    Put me on that prayer list girl! I will pray for ALL of you! Especially for you to be strong if DH wants to spend time with his family. Since he is kind of in the "do it just in case" frame of mind, this might be part of wanting to spend time with them before the surgery. Good luck to all of you!

  8. frugaltexan75 Says:
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    You are definitely in my prayers - {{{hugs}}}

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